*This post was originally posted in September 2014 on BWB.*
I was browsing through Facebook yesterday morning, and I saw a great picture of three guys who I have known since elementary school. I haven’t seen them in awhile, but that is the beauty of Facebook: you can play catch-up. It warmed my heart to see that they are still the best of friends because they were always such a great trio.
I started to think about the friendships I have had with people from middle and high school. Those friendships started when we didn’t even know who we even were as individuals. We were trying to figure out who we were, what we were interested in, what kind of person we wanted to be. We were just finding ourselves and finding out what the word friendship even meant.
I always admired my mother, who after 40 years has remained close with her childhood friends. They don’t get to see each other often, but they make it a point to meet up a couple of times a year. My husband is another person I admire for he is still friends with his entire group from high school. I have a couple of close childhood friends, who I absolutely adore. To think we have known each other for over 20 years makes me smile and cry at the same time.
Yesterday afternoon, I attended the bridal shower of one of my best friends, Melanie. I have known her since the 7th grade. We attended middle and high school together. We played on basketball teams together, we were captains of Sports Night and Battle of the Classes together. We were advisors on our senior yearbook together. We graduated high school together.
We experienced freshman year of college… together.
She was in my bridal party last year. And I attended her bachelorette party this year.
Needless to say, we grew up together.
As I reminisce and think about all the memories we have shared and all the growing up we have had to do, I realized that I am truly very lucky to have connected with this amazing woman. It’s not every day you get to say that you are attending the wedding of someone you have known since you were 12.
For her shower, I made a photo album of pictures throughout our friendship, starting with high school and ending with her bachelorette party. And as I flipped through the pictures, tears of happiness ran down my face. We have been through so much together, so many memories, stories, inside jokes…
It’s comforting to know that Melanie will always be there for me, no matter what happens in life. She is my partner in crime, my bodyguard, my English partner, my point guard, my co-captain, my frolicking partner, my cowgirl, my old roommate, my bridesmaid, my confidant, my forever friend.
My thoughts drifted back to the picture of the three guys. These friendships are different than the ones you create in your 20’s or 30’s or 40’s. I’m not saying they are any worse or any better.
But they are just different.
These people have known you when you didn’t even know you. They have stuck by your side, through the good and the bad.
And that always stands for something.