Keep Calm… You’re Getting Married! Five Ways to Reduce Stress Before The Big Day

Weddings can get stressful and overwhelming. A lot of planning goes into just one day. As a bride, you want every detail to be perfect, from the dress to the flowers, from the limos to the music. Even with all the help in the world, the level of anxiety and stress can get the best of you on the big day.

There have been times where I have felt anxiety in high-pressure situations (ex. back to school night, interviews, first dates, etc.) But  I wanted to ensure that any nerves were kept at bay. Fortunately, I was completely calm on my wedding day. I was ready to wear my gorgeous dress, walk down the aisle with my father, and meet my love at the alter. I was ready to enjoy every moment. The week before the wedding, I made sure to relax. There was no reason to stress out. Once I dropped off our place cards, bird cage, picture frames, guest list and made the final payment, what else was there to do?


All About Me

I made sure that I made time for myself. I knew that within the upcoming weeks, it was going to get hectic. The planning was coming to an end, and I made sure to make time for the gym, yoga, and some reading. It’s smart to clear your head. With so much going on in such a short period of time, it’s nice to start the day with a fresh perspective.


90 minutes of pure sweat and relaxation. My skin stayed hydrated and radiant. I also lost a couple of unwanted pounds in the process. To sit in a heated room in silence, the only thing I was concentrating on was not passing out. I probably took about 4-5 classes during the two weeks before the big day. It was nice to reflect on the past 14 months, but also to think about what was in store for me and my soon-to-be husband.

Stay Organized

If you aren’t organized, you will drive yourself nuts. I love making to-do lists and checking off the items. I was so organized that a week before my wedding, I had nothing to do. Nothing. (Ok. I lied. The only thing we had to do was put together our bridal party gift bags. But that was super fun and not stressful at all.) From the moment we got engaged, I put together a binder with all of our contracts, business cards, pictures, lists, etc. I kept copies of everything. We even created a wedding email address, so all of our vendors could email us and we were sure to receive important information. It’s all in the details.

Keep Positive.

This can be hard, especially if you are envisioning an outdoor ceremony, and the weather is not looking too hot. Sometimes people assume something is going to go wrong. The advice I always gave my friends: You and your fiancé are the only two who know ALL the details of the wedding. If something happens to go wrong, for example, they deliver the flowers and they are roses instead of peonies, who is going to know? It’s silly to stress about little things. If you are stressed and anxious, it will show in all of your pictures. Just pray that everyone shows up when they are supposed to, that the DJ plays great music all night long, and that the food is hot and delicious. If you keep a positive attitude, everything will fall into place.

Mimoas on the deck

Have fun with your bridesmaids.

Who doesn’t love to get ready with their closest girlfriends before a big night out? It was great to see all my friends together, swapping hairstyles, checking Pinterest for alternative up do’s, watching each other as they got their makeup done, sipping on mimosas, lounging on my parents deck in the sunshine. I projected a calm attitude, and everyone followed suit. It was relaxing and exactly what I needed before the festivities started.

I remember my one bridesmaid said to me afterwards, “You were so relaxed all morning. How did you manage to stay so calm?” And my response: “I am getting married today to the love of my life. All of our closest family and friends will be there to witness this marriage. They will fill the room with love and laughter and good memories. We are going to drink and eat and dance all night long. I am excited over any other emotion. This is going to be the best day of my life!”


    • October 12, 2016 / 4:05 pm

      🙂 Yes – stress free is the way to be!

  1. October 6, 2016 / 1:45 pm

    Love this!! I’m a pretty calm person anyway, so I wasn’t stressed on my wedding day, but I know several brides I will be sharing this with!

    • October 12, 2016 / 4:04 pm

      Doesn’t pay to stress! 🙂 Thanks for reading!